How much Extroversion is good for us?

For years, I considered myself an introvert. My work required constant interaction—meetings, socializing, inspiring others—leaving me drained by day's end. Even weekends felt overwhelming with more social obligations. I labeled myself introverted, assuming it explained my exhaustion.

 Except, I realized people energize me. I thrive on connections, conversations, and collaboration. So, I questioned: Am I truly an introvert?

 Today, I recognize I'm an ambivert, like most people. We crave both social engagement and alone time. The majority falls within this spectrum, seeking balance between extroversion and introversion. Jung and Heidbreder's research supports this, revealing a continuum between introversion and extroversion. Yet, societal pressures often lean towards extroversion, making it challenging for ambiverts to find equilibrium.

Corporate culture exacerbates this imbalance. As a working mom in leadership, I juggled extroverted demands without sufficient time for recharge. Stress became my constant companion, manifesting as exhaustion and reluctance to socialize.

 Many of us experience this, unaware that stress, not introversion, is the root cause. Corporate environments prioritize extroverted behaviors, leaving little room for introverted needs. This imbalance perpetuates stress, creating a cycle of exhaustion.

Recognizing this, I've learned the importance of balance. We must prioritize self-care—solitude, contemplation, nature—to recharge and restore. It's not about labeling ourselves as introverted; it's about honoring our need for balance.

So, if you're experiencing exhaustion or resistance, consider: Are you truly introverted, or are you out of balance? Prioritize self-care, and embrace the art of slowing down.

This sounds easier than it is. In fact it might seem impossible, once you give it a try. Culturally, we get no encouragement to do so. All the signals you are receiving will tell you to keep doing more and more. Busyness is glorified and rewarded. On an internal level you might have developed a tolerance for the constant low-level stress that this busyness is creating. You have accepted it, it is completely normal to you. You might even be addicted to the chemistry in your body, created by it.

Noticing and recognizing how you feel, your levels of energy, your ability to experience joy and excitement, as well as your ability to pause and rest (or the lack thereof) are great indicators.

I encourage you to explore this further. Considering yourself as an introvert might stop you from attempting to create change in your life.  In fact especially introverts might have to take a closer look at how they fill their days and hours.

Coaching can be a great way to examine all aspects of our lives and identify what we are tolerating and would like to see a change for the better.

If you want to explore that idea further, don't hesitate and reach out….